Every day, there are tragedies that happen, life circumstances we are faced with that seem insurmountable.  Many are out of our control, some in our control.  With every situation or event, we have a choice to make. And that is we can choose to be a victim of the circumstance or event or we can choose to not be a victim of the circumstance or event. The option you choose is very important, because one option gives you total control of how the rest unfolds, and the other option gives someone else the control of how the future unfolds.   As Condoleezza Rice’s mother told Conde as a child, “The minute you choose to be a victim, is the minute you give someone else control of your life.”  I was